Yeahhhhh, even if they'd been looking at anything other than hyperactive boys, I wouldn't have gotten snagged. My parents didn't know to request evaluation, and I was smart enough that I could compensate for the various flubs (like the time in 8th grade history when I missed the deadline for a long term project because it was just written on the board (among probably a shitton of irrelevant stuff) and never announced, and when I begged him to let me turn it in a day late because I hadn't been aware and had it at home, he docked me to 69, of which 1 was actual error in work and the other 30 was being late; but my overall work was good enough that I had an A in the class) and so I would have been overlooked.

I also think my obsession with following rules masked some of the add stuff, because my sister kept getting in trouble for not doing work (and really was way more overtly add than I was, just inattentive variant, and she didn't get dx until adulthood either) but I was too Good to not follow orders, so I just procrastinated and then did shit at the last minute.

Schoolwise I was in the Gifted & Talented channel, and of course "gifted" kids can't have adhd right, lolsob. So yeah, her insistence that it would have been caught just kind of baffles me. In an ideal world, sure. But this is far from ideal...