I hear you on not wanting autism on your official chart -- I don't either. With the adhd thing I was having huge levels of executive dysfunction and basically drowning and wanted to talk to my doctor about trialing meds to see if they helped (which she wouldn't do without a dx, and also she didn't believe in maintenance meds for adhd, just like "enough to help with a very specific short-term goal"), but autism has no equivalent -- for me it explains a lot of things but I wouldn't want change for myself and don't need accommodations (mostly relevant for school or work) -- and I don't need to hand medical people a weapon to depersonalize me further (yay ableism)

Anyway yes brains are weird! But also cool!