Friday 25/07/2025
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3_good_things_a_day1) I managed to sort out an administrative problem with the government
2) Finished reading a good book and starting on a new one right away
3) Completed a pilates lesson
2) Finished reading a good book and starting on a new one right away
3) Completed a pilates lesson
[ SECRET POST #6775 ]
Jul. 24th, 2025 07:47 pmcase posting in fandomsecrets⌈ Secret Post #6775 ⌋
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Two more wedding letters
Jul. 24th, 2025 03:14 pmconuly posting in agonyaunt1. Dear Care and Feeding,
I’m getting married next year, and my mom is helping me with a lot of the planning. She’s great at this stuff, and super excited to help (and I’m glad to have her—she’s one of my best friends!). But we’re worried about squabbling—or to be honest, yelling at each other—during the process. We’re VERY close, but prone to fighting about nonsense things. Any tips for avoiding a repeat of my (very loud) teenage years while we plan?
—My Fiancé is Very Calm, By the Way
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2. Dear Prudence,
I am an only child and my mother has always been … let’s call it “involved” with my life, and I have done my best to deal with it. Two years ago, I met my now-fiancée, “Arista,” and we are getting married in November. Last week, my mother came to me demanding that I call off our engagement. As it turns out, she had had a professional background check done on Arista, and she really did not like what she’d found.
After her little snoop-about, my mother discovered that she used to be in adult entertainment. The thing is, Arista was up front with me about this early on in our relationship and it doesn’t matter to me. However, I had intended to not say anything to my mother because I knew she would react like this, but more importantly, it wasn’t her business.
When I told my mom as much, she blew up and told me that I couldn’t sully our family by “marrying a whore.” I told her this wasn’t her decision and that she could either treat my future wife with the respect and decency she deserves or sit out the wedding. Now she’s told everyone in the family. Many are supportive and think she’s nuts, but some have shared her reaction. Is this grounds for removing her from my life for good?
—Pilloried By the Past
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I’m getting married next year, and my mom is helping me with a lot of the planning. She’s great at this stuff, and super excited to help (and I’m glad to have her—she’s one of my best friends!). But we’re worried about squabbling—or to be honest, yelling at each other—during the process. We’re VERY close, but prone to fighting about nonsense things. Any tips for avoiding a repeat of my (very loud) teenage years while we plan?
—My Fiancé is Very Calm, By the Way
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2. Dear Prudence,
I am an only child and my mother has always been … let’s call it “involved” with my life, and I have done my best to deal with it. Two years ago, I met my now-fiancée, “Arista,” and we are getting married in November. Last week, my mother came to me demanding that I call off our engagement. As it turns out, she had had a professional background check done on Arista, and she really did not like what she’d found.
After her little snoop-about, my mother discovered that she used to be in adult entertainment. The thing is, Arista was up front with me about this early on in our relationship and it doesn’t matter to me. However, I had intended to not say anything to my mother because I knew she would react like this, but more importantly, it wasn’t her business.
When I told my mom as much, she blew up and told me that I couldn’t sully our family by “marrying a whore.” I told her this wasn’t her decision and that she could either treat my future wife with the respect and decency she deserves or sit out the wedding. Now she’s told everyone in the family. Many are supportive and think she’s nuts, but some have shared her reaction. Is this grounds for removing her from my life for good?
—Pilloried By the Past
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Jul. 24th, 2025 03:06 pmconuly posting in agonyauntMy mother-in-law, “Hannah,” is a retired pediatrician, and self-appointed captain of our kids’ health care. Whenever we take our kids to the doctor, we have to have a post-visit debrief with Hannah, who demands every detail before offering her own (unsolicited) advice. Often, her advice contradicts the pediatrician’s recommendations, and she will get upset when we take the doctor’s side over hers.
My husband, “Tom,” says it’s better to humor her and pay lip-service to following her recommendations. I get that it’s his mom, but I’m the one fielding the questions! (Tom does what he can, but I’m usually the one taking them to the doctor and talking to her after.) I’m just sick and tired of dealing with this.
—Enough
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My husband, “Tom,” says it’s better to humor her and pay lip-service to following her recommendations. I get that it’s his mom, but I’m the one fielding the questions! (Tom does what he can, but I’m usually the one taking them to the doctor and talking to her after.) I’m just sick and tired of dealing with this.
—Enough
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Carolyn Hax: LW thinks fifth bride in family's wedding is not as big a deal
Jul. 24th, 2025 10:16 amfirebatvillain posting in agonyauntDear Carolyn: I have five children, two daughters. “Lynn” is 40, and “Emma” is 29. Lynn got married 15 years ago, and since she was the first bride of the younger generation, a big fuss was made over her wedding by me, my two sisters and especially my mother.
Emma is getting married next month, but since she is the fifth and last bride in our family, it’s not as big a deal. That’s the way it was in the previous generation, too, because this happened to my sister, the sixth bride that time around.
Complicating matters is the fact that Lynn is a stay-at-home mom of four whose husband recently left her for another woman. She is in a tailspin and requiring a lot of support. The whole family of women are pulling together for her, cooking, cleaning, taking turns sleeping at her house, etc. Except for my mom, we all have full-time jobs, which two of us didn’t have 15 years ago.
All that leaves us with little time or energy to focus on Emma’s wedding, which I thought she would understand. When she asked when we would all be making the usual desserts and decorations for the reception, no one felt they could commit.
Emma was hurt and pointed out what everyone did for Lynn, but we can’t even “do the minimum” for her. I was blindsided by her anger. I’m sorry we did more for her sister and cousins, but Lynn has the greater need right now.
I told Emma her father and I are paying for everything just like we did for her sister, and she could ask her friends to help.
Am I/are we being unfair to Emma?
— Blindsided
Emma is getting married next month, but since she is the fifth and last bride in our family, it’s not as big a deal. That’s the way it was in the previous generation, too, because this happened to my sister, the sixth bride that time around.
Complicating matters is the fact that Lynn is a stay-at-home mom of four whose husband recently left her for another woman. She is in a tailspin and requiring a lot of support. The whole family of women are pulling together for her, cooking, cleaning, taking turns sleeping at her house, etc. Except for my mom, we all have full-time jobs, which two of us didn’t have 15 years ago.
All that leaves us with little time or energy to focus on Emma’s wedding, which I thought she would understand. When she asked when we would all be making the usual desserts and decorations for the reception, no one felt they could commit.
Emma was hurt and pointed out what everyone did for Lynn, but we can’t even “do the minimum” for her. I was blindsided by her anger. I’m sorry we did more for her sister and cousins, but Lynn has the greater need right now.
I told Emma her father and I are paying for everything just like we did for her sister, and she could ask her friends to help.
Am I/are we being unfair to Emma?
— Blindsided
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Question thread #143
Jul. 24th, 2025 03:46 pmpauamma posting in ![[site community profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/comm_staff.png){kind=small}
dw_devIt's time for another question thread!
The rules:
- You may ask any dev-related question you have in a comment. (It doesn't even need to be about Dreamwidth, although if it involves a language/library/framework/database Dreamwidth doesn't use, you will probably get answers pointing that out and suggesting a better place to ask.)
- You may also answer any question, using the guidelines given in To Answer, Or Not To Answer and in this comment thread.
The rules:
- You may ask any dev-related question you have in a comment. (It doesn't even need to be about Dreamwidth, although if it involves a language/library/framework/database Dreamwidth doesn't use, you will probably get answers pointing that out and suggesting a better place to ask.)
- You may also answer any question, using the guidelines given in To Answer, Or Not To Answer and in this comment thread.
Volunteer social thread #156
Jul. 24th, 2025 03:42 pmpauamma posting in dw_volunteers26 years ago today, I was putting out what turned out to be my last cigarette.
How's everyone else doing?
How's everyone else doing?
Thursday 24/07/2025
Jul. 24th, 2025 09:52 amlhune posting in 3_good_things_a_day1) Woke up with sunshine (it didn’t last long but it was a good start of the day)
2) Reading a good book
3) I’m collecting my order this afternoon ^_^
2) Reading a good book
3) I’m collecting my order this afternoon ^_^
[ SECRET POST #6774 ]
Jul. 23rd, 2025 06:41 pmcase posting in fandomsecrets⌈ Secret Post #6774 ⌋
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Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 10 secrets from Secret Submission Post #969.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Revenge: Spooks (MI5): Fanfic: Doggies will be Doggies
Jul. 23rd, 2025 01:05 pmsmallhobbit posting in fan_flashworksTitle: Doggies will be Doggies
Fandom: Spooks (MI5) [Werewolf!Lucas 'verse]
Rating: G
Length: 289 words
Summary: Please don't tease the werewolf
Fandom: Spooks (MI5) [Werewolf!Lucas 'verse]
Rating: G
Length: 289 words
Summary: Please don't tease the werewolf
The Fantastic Journey: Fanfic: Vengeance
Jul. 23rd, 2025 12:27 pmbadly_knitted posting in fan_flashworksTitle: Vengeance
Fandom: The Fantastic Journey
Author:
badly_knittedCharacters: Varian.
Rating: PG
Spoilers/Setting: An Act of Love.
Summary: Varian is a pacifist, but right now all he wants is revenge against whatever is responsible for Gwenith’s death, and he will not stop until he gets it.
Word Count: 500
Content Notes: Nada.
Written For: Challenge 486: Revenge.
Disclaimer: I don’t own The Fantastic Journey, or the characters. They belong to their creators.
A/N: Mods, please tag with f: tv (category)
( Vengeance... )
Wednesday 23/07/2025
Jul. 23rd, 2025 11:19 amlhune posting in 3_good_things_a_day1) Went to the market for yummy strawberries
2) The books and comics I bought for my nephew and niece were a success
3) I’ve gotten the chores on my to-do list done
2) The books and comics I bought for my nephew and niece were a success
3) I’ve gotten the chores on my to-do list done
[ SECRET POST #6773 ]
Jul. 22nd, 2025 06:14 pmcase posting in fandomsecrets⌈ Secret Post #6773 ⌋
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Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 16 secrets from Secret Submission Post #969.
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S.W.A.T.: Fan Fiction: Best Served Sexy
Jul. 22nd, 2025 01:11 pmdarkjediqueen posting in fan_flashworksTitle: Best Served Sexy
Rating: NC-17
Warnings: Explicit Sex
Fandom: S.W.A.T.
Relationships: Donovan Rocker/Molly Hicks
Tags: Established Relationship, Plot What Plot
Summary: Molly was going to get him back in a sexy way.
Word Count: 5,652
Rating: NC-17
Warnings: Explicit Sex
Fandom: S.W.A.T.
Relationships: Donovan Rocker/Molly Hicks
Tags: Established Relationship, Plot What Plot
Summary: Molly was going to get him back in a sexy way.
Word Count: 5,652
( Best Served Sexy )
Tuesday 22/07/2025
Jul. 22nd, 2025 10:57 amlhune posting in 3_good_things_a_day1) I love the flowers on my balcony ^_^ Ideal to drink my morning coffee amongst them
2) Lovely call with my godmother
3) Visit to my godchild in the afternoon
2) Lovely call with my godmother
3) Visit to my godchild in the afternoon
[ SECRET POST #6772 ]
Jul. 21st, 2025 06:24 pmcase posting in fandomsecrets⌈ Secret Post #6772 ⌋
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Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 24 secrets from Secret Submission Post #969.
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