I maybe have a guilt problem

[ysobel]

So, okay, Graze lets you rate snacks: trash (never send), try (which is sort of the default), like (send occasionally), love (send regularly). I get a little fussed sometimes that there is no "send less often than default but still include sometimes" option, but whatevs.

Snacks can be put in the trash category for whatever reason, no justification needed. It can be as general (don't like a particular ingredient) or specific (don't like this particular combination) as you want. I felt okay about trashing most of the walnut stuff, because I generally don't like walnut, although I kept one of the things on 'try'. I felt sort of okay about trashing the one that sounded intriguing enough to be worth an eh ingredient (peanuts, which I am oddly meh about despite consuming vast quantities of peanut butter) but that I didn't even finish the package of.

But there was one that I tried tonight -- redskin peanuts, roasted hazels, jumbo raisins and cranberries -- that I wanted to be better than it was. I didn't dislike it, I just ... didn't enjoy it. It didn't make my mouth happy.

So, I considered marking it as trash, because why use one of four spots on something that I know I am indifferent about?

...and I got an immediate stab of self-inflicted guilt making me want to hide in a corner. Because how dare I make someone else ~feel bad~ (never mind that it's just a fucking website and if it can be said to have desires that desire would be to make people happy) and impose ~preferences~ (on a system that's designed to take my preferences wtf) and maybe if I ~tried harder~ I would ~learn to appreciate it better~ (...)

Yeah, I have no idea.

Comments

[sneezer222]

This one I really get. I don't even mark songs on Pandora that I don't like, because the first one I did, it said something like, We won't play that again. I was so sad for it.

[azurelunatic]

The flip side of that one is, "I'm not sure how I feel about this, I don't think I liked it, but what if I tried it and I liked it again? I bet lots of people out there really love it though! And if I take it again, I'm depriving someone of a snack they love when I might not appreciate it properly!"

Which is also one of those "what aaa no brain whyyyy" things.

[killing_rose]

This is why I enjoy being able to go, "Yo, there's a thing of ice cream in the freezer, it is so not my taste. Rest of you try it. Do something with it."

And sometimes that something is trash it, but I didn't make the call, and that nicely routes the weasels.

(This is also something that keeps BSODing me, as that I'm allowed to not like something and be able to admit it without anyone shaming me is still novel.)

[phoenix]

Heh, I read this after writing my comment about not eating things one doesn't want to. Once said to someone, if chocolate bar wrappers said "please don't throw me away :(" I would have a wardrobe-full, and this plays to the same instinct. Maybe someone needs to write a script that changes the text on that button to "this is a great ____ and it is very good at being a ____ but this one human being (not representative of all human beings) would prefer not to receive it again unless it really wants to be sent to me in which case I will welcome it".