ysobel | stabbity

I am ... very annoyed.

Caregiver scheduled to be on call Sunday afternoons (where "on call" = come when I need to go to the bathroom, generally just for toileting, and also in the evening around 9 to toilet and get me ready for bed), who has had Sunday afternoons in her rotation for a really long time now, and before that had *all* of Sunday except that she kept not showing up in time for me to get to church so we shuffled stuff around so that I could actually have a better chance of showing up--

Let me start over.

Caregiver scheduled to be on call Sunday afternoons somehow forgot that she did Sunday afternoons. I sent my first text at 4. About six texts, four calls, and *two and a half hours* later, she gets back to me, and she does come over then and she is sorry and she didn't have today written down for me and she was swimming which is why she didn't answer her phone and ... etc. As she is leaving she asks me who does tonight; I say she does; she says okay.

8:30, I get a text from her asking if she can please get coverage for her shift because the exterminator is coming to her place again tomorrow (she has a bug problem) and everything's not ready.

Now.

My other caregivers are stretched thin, and I haven't found enough people to get a proper rotation. They pretty much can't cover. My dad and stepmom, who have helped me sometimes, are out of town. But.

Substitutions are hard to manage but possible. Last-minute substitutions are *pretty dang impossible*.

And "I haven't gotten done the stuff for tomorrow" doesn't fucking hold water, pun intended, when you were fucking *swimming for more than two hours* wtffffff

*breathes*

grarh.

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synecdochic

I really wonder if these people realize you rely on them to be able to pee. Like, have they ever been in a situation where they can't pee for two hours? Do they remember how miserable they were? Seriously, wtf.

ysobel

Doubt it.

It's also a big sticking point when I'm trying to hire new people, because no one wants to come for half an hour or an hour; they all want two or three hours worth of work. And I don't have that many hours to give, but I also can't just ... shovel all of a day's visits together, because that would work for housework and errands but not for peeing.

I just wish I could get over the thing where I feel like an utter ass for inconveniencing people. By needing to pee. Because it's so under my control...

Honey? I am giving you executive permission to be annoyed by people failing to realize that YOU FUCKING HAVE TO PEE REGULARLY, IT'S NOT A ONCE AND DONE THING.

If I were you, I'd be pretty fucking livid.