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ysobelTo start with: I have messy desk/table/etc surfaces. I know this. It's kind of obvious.
I also tend to have things wander off -- usually when one of my aides either moves it or uses it but doesn't put it back.
One of my daily medications is a sublingual film; I have a set of basically long tweezers that is dedicated to getting the (small) piece of film to the bottom of my tongue. Some aides use the tweezers, some use a spoon, some use their fingers.
The tweezers got left out on the table rather than being put back with the med stuff, a vase of birthday flowers ended up in front of them. So the weekday morning aide couldn't find them.
Instead of asking me, she decided to use a similar pair of tweezers on my computer desk. Ones that I use for crafting, and for clearing built-up gunk from the crevices around the outside of the ear, and other such things that make them not ideal for things that go in my mouth.
I told her that, for future reference, I had unused and therefore cleaner pairs of the tweezers.
She fucking laughed, and said something like, "I'd make a comment about being able to find them, but..." and giggled again.
😤
Later it occurred to me that I could have said "I'm glad you didn't say anything then, because that would have been rude and improper as well as incorrect".
What I did do is look at her unsmiling, turn around, call her over to the desk, and point at the pencil cup that has not one but TWO such tweezers. ...no, three; one is disguised with the microphone cover.
Best part is, once I actually looked where I said the tweezers were ("they're on the table." "I couldn't find them." I wasn't awake enough to articulate "behind the flower vase" but that was the first place I looked, they were ... on the table, behind the flower vase but right near my water cup.
...I'm not mad that she wasn't able to find them. I'm mad about the snotty comment and the fucking laugh.
Weird thing is, if it had been my roommate saying something, it would have been fine. I think it has to do with "laughing at" vs "laughing with". My roommate and I have a running joke of "where did $aide put $thing this time", and any humor is in how things wander off. With this aide, it came across as "you are a pathetically disorganized person".
I'm thinking of leaving the tweezers where they are with a trail of post-it notes. Probably won't -- this exact circumstance is unlikely to happen again -- but mrrrr.
I also tend to have things wander off -- usually when one of my aides either moves it or uses it but doesn't put it back.
One of my daily medications is a sublingual film; I have a set of basically long tweezers that is dedicated to getting the (small) piece of film to the bottom of my tongue. Some aides use the tweezers, some use a spoon, some use their fingers.
The tweezers got left out on the table rather than being put back with the med stuff, a vase of birthday flowers ended up in front of them. So the weekday morning aide couldn't find them.
Instead of asking me, she decided to use a similar pair of tweezers on my computer desk. Ones that I use for crafting, and for clearing built-up gunk from the crevices around the outside of the ear, and other such things that make them not ideal for things that go in my mouth.
I told her that, for future reference, I had unused and therefore cleaner pairs of the tweezers.
She fucking laughed, and said something like, "I'd make a comment about being able to find them, but..." and giggled again.
😤
Later it occurred to me that I could have said "I'm glad you didn't say anything then, because that would have been rude and improper as well as incorrect".
What I did do is look at her unsmiling, turn around, call her over to the desk, and point at the pencil cup that has not one but TWO such tweezers. ...no, three; one is disguised with the microphone cover.
Best part is, once I actually looked where I said the tweezers were ("they're on the table." "I couldn't find them." I wasn't awake enough to articulate "behind the flower vase" but that was the first place I looked, they were ... on the table, behind the flower vase but right near my water cup.
...I'm not mad that she wasn't able to find them. I'm mad about the snotty comment and the fucking laugh.
Weird thing is, if it had been my roommate saying something, it would have been fine. I think it has to do with "laughing at" vs "laughing with". My roommate and I have a running joke of "where did $aide put $thing this time", and any humor is in how things wander off. With this aide, it came across as "you are a pathetically disorganized person".
I'm thinking of leaving the tweezers where they are with a trail of post-it notes. Probably won't -- this exact circumstance is unlikely to happen again -- but mrrrr.
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Date: 2017-11-12 08:30 pm (UTC)Since they're there, they should be able to recognize that you're not creating the clutter.
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