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[ysobel]

Me: I don't do much at all. It's kind of pathetic.

Other people, coming up to me: wow, you do so much!!!!!111

Um. How am I not in the same reality?

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[pauamma]

Is that a rhetorical question?

[alexseanchai]

I think both you and they have erroneous assumptions, and the assumptions in question differ vastly, leading to you and they coming to opposingly erroneous conclusions.

[lilysea]

I am firmly of the belief that what matters is not how much someone accomplishes, but how much someone accomplishes proportionate to their available mental energy and physical energy.

So, if you have
- mental fatigue
- physical fatigue
- chronic pain
- Anxiety/Depression/PTSD
- ADHD
- and more
your accomplishments count for more than if you were Abled, because your accomplishments cost you more/were more difficult for you.

[trelana]

I've... never thought of it that way.

I've been gradually losing ability to do my normal activities - I've gone from being able to work two demanding jobs (one physical, one mental) 16-18 hours, 6-7 days a week, to having days I can barely manage to get out of bed and eating has become almost too difficult. But I'm still trying to hold myself to what I could once do, and feeling like a failure.

Thank you.

[lilysea]

^_^

You're welcome.

I went from being able to work full-time and go bushwalking/hiking every weekend

to being mostly housebound and needing a power wheelchair to use the house.

It's a big mental adjustment.