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Nov. 3rd, 2009 02:51 pm( hi, I'm being kinda emo today )
Our society isn't really that great for dealing with grief even in obvious situations. Have a parent die, or a partner, or a sibling, or a child... okay, I guess you can be sad for a day or two, but then you have to move on, get over it. (Especially if it's an 'anticipated' death, because you've had time to adjust.) Lose a pet, and it's only an animal, right?
(in case I need to state it, sarcasm mode firmly in force: I do not personally subscribe to society's general opinions on things like this.)
But it took a long time for me to realize that not only was I grieving a loss, with each major or minor change to my mobility, but that it was okay to be doing that. Not necessarily okay by society's standards (where I am to be grateful that I can still see/hear/think and grateful to those taking care of me), but okay in the sense that it's something I can permit myself.
(which doesn't make it any easier)
Our society isn't really that great for dealing with grief even in obvious situations. Have a parent die, or a partner, or a sibling, or a child... okay, I guess you can be sad for a day or two, but then you have to move on, get over it. (Especially if it's an 'anticipated' death, because you've had time to adjust.) Lose a pet, and it's only an animal, right?
(in case I need to state it, sarcasm mode firmly in force: I do not personally subscribe to society's general opinions on things like this.)
But it took a long time for me to realize that not only was I grieving a loss, with each major or minor change to my mobility, but that it was okay to be doing that. Not necessarily okay by society's standards (where I am to be grateful that I can still see/hear/think and grateful to those taking care of me), but okay in the sense that it's something I can permit myself.
(which doesn't make it any easier)